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Correction

28/11/2020

 
Dear friends,

The letter that I sent out last week was written in a way in which Jonathan Pollard's honesty, integrity, purity of intention and even the fact that Anne Pollard is in fact Jewish, were distorted by my having used secondary sources, and therefore committed the sin of lashon ha ra.

Needless to say we all wish only good to the Pollards!.  

​HE IS EVERY BLOOD CELL AND EVERY GALAXY AT THE SAME TIME

24/11/2020

 

Dear friends,
What confusing times we live in!
The elections are over, but are they really?
There is a vaccine for Corvid 19. Is it really what we were hoping for?
There are countless conspiracy theories floating around. It would be easy to dismiss them, but over the years I have discovered that sometimes the most outrageous conspiracy theories turned out to be true. Of course I have also discovered that the majority of them don’t turn out to be true. Where do you turn to when you are looking for truth?
When my boys were still teenagers one of Israel’s repetitive wars was going on. Word got out that Rav Shach zatzal had made a major address about responding to the situation. When I went down to the mailbox to pick up the paper (we had a subscription that I had bought for my first husband thinking he would enjoy it. He didn’t nor did the kids. I was the only one who read my “present”). Of course, since they were teenagers, one of them grabbed it out of my hands immediately. After a moment he threw it on the table and said. “He didn’t say anything”. I looked at the front page, and saw that there were 6 columns worth of “nothing”. I asked him what he meant to say. He said, “Oh you know. Daven. Learn. Show greater respect and generate unity to your fellow Jew”. To him this felt like nothing. He would have much preferred something novel and (even better) dramatic. Maybe a call to have every single person in the country to go to the Kotel at dawn, or maybe a demand that everyone adopt a foster child or at least that all of the yeshivos close for a day of focused prayer in one of the holy places in the north (preferably not too far form a nature reserve). 
It doesn’t go that way.
Truth is the whole picture. We humans are far too limited to see the truth as it really is. Our lives are too short, our intellects too limited and our emotions too strong to avoid subjectivity.
Truth is far bigger than factuality. If someone were to ask you “Who was Hitler” and you answer “a vegetarian”, your answer would be accurate, but far from true. The only possible address for truth is truth that is from a source that is higher than you are (much as in the physical world, what you see form the top of the mountain is far more reflective of genuine reality that what you see from your window) From the mountain top you can see an entire panorama. From your window, if you are not careful (and if the pane isn’t clean) all you see is yourself and your immediate surroundings. When Hashem gave us the Torah, He gave us truth.
There’s a problem.
You can only hear the truth if you don’t block it out. You can block it out by physical passion or by ego, or by unwillingness to change. The illusion is that living a life of falsehood is sweeter. In the short term this is often accurate, but accurate and true aren’t the same things.
The only one of the patriarchs who is mentioned in Birkat HaMzaon (the prayer after eating bread), is Yaakov. We refer to Hashem as “Our holy One, the Holy One of Yaakov”. The reason that he is mentioned and not Avraham or Yitzchak is that he took their teachings even further than they did. He used their legacy to climb the mountain, and to see the world form its top. Avrhaham introduced the world of his time to belief in one G-d, and realized that we are in His image, and we can develop ability to bond with Him by mirroring Him. He is the host of the world? Be hospitable. He is compassionate; plead the case for others the way that Avraham bargained for Sdom.  Avraham was the pillar of chessed, Yitzchak built on what Avraham had started. He saw that there are many obstacles that are in the way –and he combined dealing with them with living he kind of life Abraham had lived. Besides the awesome and inspiring moments that you are familiar with (for instance, the akeida) he brought the ideal of living for Hashem into every aspect of his life. His “pillar” is the pillar of devotion to Hashem. Devotion demands strength, He left us our collective ability to make awesomely painful and difficult choices to stay Jewish. Yaakov saw the “whole picture”-Avraham’s love of Hashem, and Yitzchak’s strength and devotion.  He became a man of truth. This means seeing the whole picture. The whole picture always includes Hashem in it, since He is every blood cell and every galaxy at the same time. Yaakov’s name is mentioned in Birkat HaMazon because he could see Hashem even in the bread he was eating. 
Eisov was his twin
Equally as gifted, brought up by the same parents. His every choice ended up false for one reason. He couldn’t ever take himself out of the picture. His cheessed is based on the personal satisfaction and external recognition that it often brings. His courage was unfocussed.  I grew up on the Three Muscateers and the Knights of the Round Table. They were portrayed as being courageous, but the loyalty was never to Hashem, who for them was at most a vague presence somewhere Out There.
I don’t know who will resolve the confusion concerning the American election. I don’t know what will end the Corona Pandemic. What I do know is that tshuvah and tefillah and tzedakah are the visible sources of change that you can see when you are on top  of the mountain.
 
Love,
Tziporah

November 24th, 2020

24/11/2020

 

​STAY ALIVE THROUGHOUT YOUR LIFE

10/11/2020

 

Dear friends,
Age was once respected. Things have changed. Once you are in your mid-twenties people avoid asking you the ‘A’ question. Things were different when you were a child. If someone accused you of being 7 when you were actually 8, you would correct their mistake. After all, you have something to show for the year they omitted. You are bigger, smarter, and more like an adult.. 
What happened?
There are all sorts of theories about why age is perceived in a progressively more negative light as you move onward and upward. One is the untenable fact that you don’t get better and better looking, or more and more energetic. Actually the word undeniable is not a good choice. I have been in denial for years, and so have some of you. You also may discover that at least technologically, you are less with it than the post millennials. We all have literally trillions of neural pathways, but gosh, the ones you developed aren’t the same ones that they did if you were born when your Date of Birth began with the number 19….
Is it always a downhill slide?
Sara lived to be 127. The Torah presents it in three segments. The person she was at 7, the person she was at 20 and the person she was at 100. Each stage is described as holy, innocent and beautiful. 
Do you remember being 7?
I do. It was the age of Mrs. Neary’s second grade classroom being the place where things Happen. It was the era in which my lifelong love of reading began to become real and serious.  I became the heroes of the books that I read, and their adventures filled my rich fantasy life. 
The Bais HaLevi says that this stage is one in which your love of good, of justice and or making something of yourself, begins to show itself. It is potentially the beginning of your becoming a holy person. Then comes adulthood; a time in which the need to actually interact with the real world replaces the unborn aspirations of childhood. It’s a time for fulfilling ambitions so that the inner voice of the child who wants to be a hero can now be heard. This stage also comes to an end. In secular society there is no defined ambition or even purpose for life at this stage. Relaxation, dedicating yourself to pastimes that may give pleasure but rarely give more, are colors on the palette for this era. Given that life expectancy is in the 80s nowadays, this leaves quite a few years without defined structure. Kedushas Levi has a different approach. He says that this time of life is one in which the acquired wisdom of all the previous years meld into a potential self that is both reflective and wise.  For the most part, this is when the Gedolei Torah reached their highest levels.
What does this have to do with you? The basic message is to see that you stay alive throughout your life.  The Talmud tells you that tzadikim are called “living” even after their deaths, while evil people are called dead even while they are physically alive and breathing. The reason that it says this is that life actually involves connection to Hashem. Every stage of life opens its own possibilities.
Sara made use of each stage of her life. We are all in the middle of the drama. 
Here, at Bnos Avigail, Neve, and with you, my dear dear friends who I “know” from the online community, ask the kind of questions that tell me that you are very, very aware of this. 
Simcha comes from resolving doubts. When you see every day as “lihatchila”, as a purposeful gift, there are no real doubts.

Thursday the 25th of Cheshvan, is the sixth year since the Arabs attacked the Bnei Torah shul on Agassi Street in Har Nof killing 6 and seriously wounding 2.  The attackers lived in Jabel Mukaber. Those of you who have been on the Tisha B’Av trip around the hills of Yerushalayim have seen it, even though at the time you didn’t know it. It is the idyllic village that you see when you look towards the Temple Mount from the extreme  left side of the Haas Promenade. My son lived in an adjacent Jewish neighborhood called Nof Tzion for several years. When he looked out the window, he saw the same view that they did; he saw the holiest place of all. The two neighborhoods shared a playground (more correctly the children of Jabel Mukaber found their way to the play area that their neighbors in Nof Tzion constructed). On “our” side many people viewed this as natural, given the closeness of the two neighborhoods, and watched to see what fruits would grow from this particular tree. Others stood aside hoping that there would be no trouble and acknowledging that there were no real choices given that this is where they had chosen to live. 
My granddaughter Oriya played there, and got to know the neighbors. One day, a little girl about her own age said “you know, you can take a different name. You don’t have to be Oriya. You can be Anastasia. Then we can be real friends, and when we grow up, we can go to the mall together. You can be like us”. When she came home and told her mother, my daughter in law knew that the time had come to tell Oriya the truth. She told her about what had happened in Har Nof, and what had happened years ago in Chevron not far from where her aunt currently lives. And then she told her the most important message of all.
You can choose who you want to be every day. You don’t have to be anyone you don’t want to be. You have to watch that no one hurts you, but you don’t have to be someone who likes to hurt people. You don’t have give up being Oriya and be Anastasia to deserve life, and no one has to murder 6 men who came to pray on an ordinary morning because they hate anyone who isn’t what they are. There may be difficult people in your life. You may not be able to choose who they are but you can choose who you are. 
This message is one that can transform the way you look at your life regardless of what stage you are. Choose life. Choose to be the self you want to be.
 
Love,
Tziporah

WHERE IS LIFE TAKING YOU?

2/11/2020

 


Dear friends,

When was the last time you really questioned where are you letting your life take you?

I think it was while I was separating the colored and white wash. Does a white shirt with black embroidering really go with the white? Shall I start a new political movement to defend my right to determine this for myself?
Maybe not.

In an (even) more serious vein, I found myself thinking about something that one of the great philosophers said, “An unexamined life is not worth living”. It sounds good. Yes. Don’t just get on the first bus that you see. Notice where it is heading. The problem is, once you examine your life, how do you determine if its direction is taking you where you want to go? Not all good decisions are equal. Some get you closer to being the person you want to be, and some leave you where you are. It’s easy to look at the Greats and to see the turning points in their lives. Think about Rivka at the well, Avraham in Ur Kasdim, Moshe at the burning bush. Now go back to me on the laundry porch. See the problem? It’s sometimes very informative to look at the Almost Greats and to observe the way they responded to more mediocre choices.

Avraham’s response to the command to do bris milah was completely predictable. His love for Hashem and his desire to live on His terms was, at that point, no surprise. He didn’t live in a bubble. In addition to the thousands of students who were attracted to both Avraham and Sarah, he had made alliances with three notable Canaanites, Aner, Eshkol and Mamre. Avraham told them about Hashem’s command. There was no question as to whether Avraham would obey Hashem’s explicit command. Of course he would. His only question is whether or not to do this in a way that the rest of the world is aware, or perhaps it should be done privately because the rest of the world would relate to circumcision as being a bizarre act of self-mutilation (can you imagine how CNN would report it?)

The three all recognized that there was far more to this question than meets the eye. Once Avraham is circumcised, he is no longer like anyone else in the world. There is a sign on his body that will stay with him the rest of his life. It is distinct, real, and one that separates. Aner and Eshkol wanted this to be private. They were resentful of the idea of someone being defined as different and more connected in any way to Hashem. They thought being equal means being identical. Does it? Let us first examine by looking at the world through their eyes.
Have you ever heard anti-Semetic remarks in which the main attack is that we claim to be different? That we see ourselves as being somehow elite?

Do they question whether this means that they are less if we are more? Do they question the direction their lives are taking? Do they question who we are and why?
We have been the voice that the world hears for centuries. All the great spiritual traditions are touched by us. Materially we tend to prosper wherever we land. When we are accused of having economic power, political power and a strong presence in the media is this all a lie? It is not. The question is where does that put us, and where does that put them? If they don’t ask this question then the result of our being different can cause deep resentment. Aner and Eshkol advised Avraham to keep his relationship to Hashem private.

Mamre understood that this was indeed a parting of their ways, but he didn’t see this as tragic, or indicative of the need to be defensive. He told Avraham to do it publicly, in the middle of the day, and to take the place that Hashem has designed for him. The world is a mosaic of peoples each one having a space that no other nation can replace. In the highest and most honest sense that means that being unique is the ultimate testimony to believing in equality. It is a statement that means you can be you, and I can be me. Hashem’s world is great enough to accommodate everyone, and for everyone to attain their level of genuine perfection as they are.

Three days later, Avraham was sitting in the doorway of his tent, hoping against hope that even though the weather was terribly hot, someone might still be heading towards his open door . Like circumcision, hospitality is very “real world”. Avraham wasn’t only meditating or studying as he sat by the door. He was waiting to serve people in the same way that Hashem does, with actual food and drink. The message of the negation of self and of ego that doing the bris at his age, publicly, was not lost on him. He is meant to bring Hashem down to this world. His body echoes Hashem’s presence. His conscious decision to follow Hashem, the host of all the world, by being hospitable was a logical outcome.

Back to checking out where your life is going. Whatever else you are, you are Avraham's descendant. You have his blood in your veins. You have to take the bus that will bring you to where you want to be in your unique way. Your destiny is to serve Hashem
With your heart
WIth your soul
With your resources.

Like all of your fellow members of The Tribe.

Love, Tziporah
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